Dear Tomatoes, I just really need a guy's opinion and point of view. So here it goes, I have had the same fuck buddy for the past year and some months, and I of course have developed some feelings for the guy, but at the same time I have hooked up with other guys too cause I am technically single, so I always wonder how the person on the other side of the fence feels. So my question is when guys continue [to] only fuck you (strictly fucking, no dates, no hanging out) what is the reason behind it? Is that it's just good sex, is it they can't find someone else, and could guys continue to have sex with someone they don't like or care for in any sense for an extended period of time? From, lord sword's curious fuck buddy Dear Slut, First of all, let me just inform you that you are a big slut. Not that there's anything wrong with that though, as long as you're enjoying it. Actually, whether or not you're enjoying it, it's still cool. Masochism and self-destruction are the foundations of our society. Uncle Sam wants you to treat yourself like shit. I'ld just like to start this with a breif anecdote of my first encounter with sluttiness besides the endless parade of men my mom used to fuck (just kidding). I was a little boy and I was watching that show, Cheers on my little black and white TV. It was the eighties. If it weren't for the fact that my mom never let me eat sugar, I probably would've been sucking on an Otter Pop. Sam, the bartender, had this tradition that every year, he would get together with this woman on Valentine's Day out in the middle of nowhere in a log cabin or some ridiculous shit, and they would have this romantic evening and fuck each other and drink champagne and wear silk robes and all the other lame shit that old, boring, consenting adults do with each other. And, it was totally implied that the woman was married. And even in my young, little tiny brain, the whole thing seemed totally unlikely. Unless you're using a glory hole, there's no such thing as no strings attached sex. Maybe there's a few other examples too such as prostitution, porno, swinger parties. I don't know maybe there's lots of examples, but in your case, there is some kind of intimacy going on. Because of the nature of an advice column, this isn't really a dialogue. I can't ask you further questions. I just have to make some assumptions. Like, I'm assuming you're a woman. If you're a gay man, than I'm clueless as to what to say because as far as I know all of them are sluts. I know that sounds ignorant because it is. Anyway, allow me to continue. If it wasn't for the emotional connection that you get from having sex with another person, you'ld be better off just sticking a cucumber up your pussy, so stop trying to pretend that you're just getting your rocks off. 90% of sex that takes place in this world happens because people are lonely. And then, there is the rather sad occurence of women who don't know how to masturbate. The whole idea of it bums me out so bad that I almost don't even want to talk about it. If you are a woman and you're dependent on men to fuck you to get off, that's such a huge predicament, just thinking about it makes me want to go ride my bike off the Hollywood freeway. But, back to you, "fuck buddy", if that's really your name. I think all of us are guilty of being in denial that almost everything that we do affects other people in a huge way. Violence is an obvious example. Beating somebody up goes way beyond the physical damage. Directly experiencing violence fucks with your head for the rest of your life, and violent people really trivialize that. I know that's an extreme example, but what I'm trying to say is you could be really hurting this guys' feelings, but you know what I say? "FUCK HIM." literally. As long as it's extremely clear that you're not into him for a relationship, and as long as you're not giving him any diseases from these other men that you're fucking, if he wants to get his feelings hurt than he's a fucking pussy and he obviously hasn't learned the most important lesson in life: "LIFE IS PAIN, SO YOU MIGHT AS WELL EMBRACE IT." Please send more questions (anonymously please) to the mediator of my advice column, Wayne-in-Blood, wb@spilltheblood.com